Two Things

I promise to be better about blogging soon — but in between changing poopy diapers, running the kids around to various activities and working on 3 Things for Mom, I have found that my personal blog is taking a hit. However, I love it here — so I will work hard to clear some good writing space. Mostly because I miss it!

In the meantime, I blog every Monday morning over at 3 Things for Mom.

Today, however, I have two things for you guys.

One is for dads.

The second is for moms.

But I encourage you all to watch/read BOTH, and I promise you, you will be happy you did.

The first is an article that I stumbled upon while googling about ear infections. It’s Dr. Bill’s story about becoming a dad. Here’s his intro:

Dads, let me share with you how I blew it with our first three children. Our first two came at a time when I was learning to be a doctor, and the third as I was getting a practice started. I bought into the philosophy of putting career pursuits ahead of everything. Having grown up without a father, I had no model of the importance of the father in child rearing. Besides, Martha was such a good mother. I felt I didn’t need to be available. As with many fathers, I planned to get involved when the boys were old enough to throw a football. Big mistake!

When one of our children would misbehave, I would either overreact or under-react; but Martha knew just what to do. Most of the time she reacted in the right way, and got results. She had a handle on disciplining our children; I didn’t. And because I didn’t, she had to become the full-time correction officer, as well as the chief nurturer. I also realized that she was a sensitive disciplinarian because she knew the children so well. She knew them because she was in touch with them. She nursed them, carried them, and responded sensitively to their cries. Not only did she know them, they knew her and respected her wisdom. “How did you know that they were about to get into trouble?” I would ask Martha. “I just knew,” she would reply. The light went on: not only does the parent develop the child, but the child develops the parent. Our children had helped Martha develop her sensitivity toward them. Meanwhile, I was losing at both ends. I wasn’t around my children enough, so they didn’t respond to me.

Know your child. Lesson number one for fathers: In order to discipline your children, you have to know them. And to know them, you have to be involved in nurturing them. Except for breastfeeding, there is nothing about babycare that father can’t be involved in to some extent. I discovered I needed to hold our children more and open myself up to respond sensitively to their cries as best I could. I needed to realize that they needed what I had to offer as their father. My family needed me to be available to them.

Read more about how Dr. Bill changed his life — and his family — so that he would have no regrets in parenting his next FIVE kids. It’s pretty inspiring!

The second is a video created by mom blogger, Lisa-Jo Baker, and Journey Box Media. If you’re feeling like “just an ordinary mom,” this video will inspire, encourage and remind you: YOU ARE MIGHTY. Hint: you may want to have a tissue close by.

One Comment

  1. Julia's Math

    The child develops the parent. I love it so very insightful! I tend to think about this negatively- like how my three year old can play me like a fiddle but that is so much more positive. Thanks for the redirect!

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